Spousal abuse falls as definition broadens

 

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Spousal abuse falls as definition broadens to avoid funding problems and job losses for activists

 

TO: Cllr Richard Barnes, GLA

Dear Richard,

I thought you might appreciate this information.
It appears that DV is declining in numbers and frequency in Canada.
This can only mean more funding problems for its activists.

We have already seen the definition of DV broaden in this country as the incidence of DV has fallen.
If I haven't sent you the information on falling DV in England then please excuse me. I'll send it after the holiday period. From the 2001 BCS it appears that DV is now down to its 1987 levels.

This begs the question "Should the GLA be contemplating such a comprehensive strategy and so large a budget for a declining problem ?

Kindest regards,
Robert
Chairman ManKind.

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The Report Newsmagazine, [April 1, 2002, p. 26 ]

FAMILY STRIFE

The violent wife

An Ottawa couple goes public to focus attention on spousal violence against men

By LYNNE COHEN

According to a July 2000 Statistics Canada report, spousal abuse in this
country is on the decline.  Furthermore, what abuse is taking place is
divided almost equally between men and women.  In fact, StatCan found that
just 8% of women and 7% of men had experienced a "violent" incident over the
preceding five years. And that is when violence is defined as anything from
shoving to stabbing. [see endnote --WHS]

>Nevertheless, most Canadians continue to labour under the impression that
one type of spousal abuse--of women by their male partners--is a runaway
problem in this country. That myth was supported last month in a coroners
report into the murder two years ago of a Pickering, Ont., woman by her
estranged husband, who then killed himself.  Recommended actions included
spending more public money on women fleeing abusive men, and directing
police and the justice system to be more aggressive towards violent men. Not
surprisingly, the

>[Picture here: "The Kinsellas: Had nowhere to turn for help"]

Ontario Women's Justice Network called for the immediate implementation of
the recommendations.

But Ottawa's Linda and Kevin Kinsella are among the growing numbers of
Canadians who think the time has come for government and the media to look
at the parallel, yet largely unacknowledged issue of women's abuse of men.
And they should know because, in the Kinsella home, it was Linda, 30, who
did the battering.  Besides punching, kicking and scratching her husband,
she would also tip Kevin, a 56-year-old cerebral palsy victim, out of his
wheelchair.

>Mrs. Kinsella admits the abuse was severe. "It was the same as if I took a
>hammer to an able-bodied person's knees," she says of her penchant for
>dumping her husband out of his wheelchair. "I would trap Kevin completely.
>Thankfully, he does not bruise easily."
>
>More often than not, they fought about how to spend what little money they
>received from their disability pensions.  (Mrs. Kinsella suffers from
>fibromyalgia.)  Linda recalls the time about seven years ago when she
called
>the police to allege abuse against him during one of their weekly fights.
>Today, such a call by a woman in Ontario would automatically result in the
>husband's arrest.  At that time, the police still had discretion, but Linda
>knew she could have had Kevin charged with assault if she wanted to.
>
>By the time police arrived, she had come to her senses.  "You should be
>arresting me, not him," she told them.  Kevin agreed, and the police backed
>down.  "I am very thankful they did not put Kevin through the court
system,"
>Linda says.  "I do not know if our relationship could have survived the
>stress."
>
>Although her violence against her husband did not stop with the incident,
>"it was the start of my realization that I had a problem and I needed help.
>I did not stop abusing Kevin immediately, but I began to think about what I
>was doing."  She finally reformed four years ago, mainly through
>self-restraint, counselling and by becoming active as a political volunteer
>in the NDP.
>
>But in her efforts to seek help, she found it nearly impossible to find
>anyone to take her seriously--even her counsellor.  "Instead of getting
>validation that I, indeed, had a problem, I was asked what Kevin did to
>provoke me," she recalls.  "This confused and frustrated me.  Here I am
>being told because I am a woman my problem didn't exist.  I was not even
>offered anger-management courses or any other type of assistance."  Kevin
>had nowhere to go for help either.  Told by a friend that he should leave
>Linda, he discovered there were no shelters or resources available for men
>fleeing domestic violence.
>
>The Kinsellas went public with their problem last December in the 'Ottawa
>Citizen'.  They say it was one of the hardest decisions they had made since
>getting married at centre-ice before the start of an Ottawa Senators game
in
>1992.  "Yes, we took a risk," says Linda of last year's article.  "Kevin is
>on the provincial executive for the Ontario NDP, and I am an activist for
>disability issues.  So far, [our going public] has not had any
repercussions
>for us politically."
>
>But neither has it opened the public's eyes to the country's
>husband-battering problem or to the overstating of male-against-female
>violence.  That much was evident at the inquest into the Pickering
>murder-suicide.  During the proceedings, London, Ont., psychologist Peter
>Jaffe presented jurors with a four-hour lecture and slide show that he
>usually saves for training judges, police, doctors, teachers and clergy on
>family violence against women.  Mr. Jaffe has written eight books on the
>subject, and is widely considered an expert.  However, contrary to the
>StatCan findings, he claims 29% of Canadian women are abused.  A subsequent
>Citizen investigation revealed that his statistics are not even remotely
>supported by Ontario hospital emergency-room records.
>
>On the other hand, there is a growing body of evidence that men are highly
>vulnerable to attacks by their wives and girlfriends.  According to several
>U.S. sources, the reason this contradictory information is rarely discussed
>is that women's groups have the ear of government and are not afraid to use
>that power to suppress the truth.
>
>For example, author Susan Steinmetz said that following the publication in
>1978 of her book 'The Battered Husband Syndrome,' she received verbal
>threats and anonymous phone calls from radical women's groups.  They even
>threatened to harm her children.  She said she found it "ironic that the
>same people who claim that women-initiated violence is purely self-defence
>are so quick to threaten violence against people who do nothing more than
>publish a scientific study."
>
>Murray A. Straus, a sociologist and co-director for the Family Research
>Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire, has blamed "women in the
>battered [women's] shelter movement for denying that women physically abuse
>their spouses, or for playing down such abuse.  Mr. Straus also said at
>least 50 studies of domestic violence--including some he himself
>conducted--show both men and women are equally culpable.
>
>The Kinsellas have no trouble believing such numbers.  They simply wonder
>how long it will take for governments to acknowledge that domestic violence
>is an equal-opportunity activity.

>
>The Report, April l, 2002
>http://report.ca
>
> The Report
>
>Write to The Report at <ar@incentre.net>.
>
>________________________
>1.) My note: The StatCan report is Statistics Canada pub. "Family Violence
>in Canada: A Statistical Profile 2000" Cat. no. 85-224
><http://www.statcan.ca/english/freepub/85-224-XIE/0000085-224-XIE.pdf>
>
>
># # #
>
>Walter H. Schneider
>Fathers for Life
>http://www.fathersforlife.org
>
>

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